So you’ve cruised the chat rooms, forums, or the list of profiles on that dating site. There so many of them out there these days – Red Hot Pie, Adult Friend Finder, Tinder, RSVP, Bumble, Oasis etc. You start chatting with someone and find you have a few things in common. You flirt with them, perhaps sext with them and then you get to the point where you want to meet them in person. So you set a time and organize somewhere to meet. Perhaps you choose to meet at a local coffee shop, a restaurant, bar, or even the park if you both have dogs.
Imagine the scene … you turn up at the organized location. You spot the person/people you arranged to meet and go on over to them. You exchange greetings and immediately you may realize:
- This person is 10 years older than their profile picture
- This person is not the same person as the person in their profile picture
- You immediately just pick up a bad vibe from them
Perhaps it doesn’t all turn sour so soon – but we all know someone this has happened to right?
Maybe you spend 30-60 minutes chatting before you realize that you just are not compatible. And then what?
Typically, you will make some reason that you need to leave earlier than planned – perhaps a family emergency, another appointment comes up etc. We all know that it is hard to be honest upfront and straight out tell the other person that they are just not what you are looking for. Or you sit it out … making dull conversation and wishing you were anywhere else – but feeling an obligation to finish up your dinner/coffee etc.
If you do hit it off and you want to hook up … where do you go? Do you go back to one of your homes? You don’t know this person very well yet and perhaps you are not comfortable enough to bring them back to your private sanctuary just yet. And perhaps you don’t want to put yourself in a situation where you go to their home either. It can be a bit of a tricky situation.
But what if you were to arrange to meet the person/couple at a swingers club? How would this look different?
If you arrange to meet a single/couple at the club and they are immediately not who you expect or you don’t hit it off after chatting with them for a while – then there are plenty of other people at the club that you can connect with. It will be easy to strike up a conversation with others at the club that takes you out of the difficult situation of having to explain one on one that you are not interested in the person/people you came to meet. Or perhaps you just invite others to join your conversation to spice it up. The person you came to meet also has the opportunity to chat with others. You never know who you both might meet even if your meeting doesn’t work out for the best.
If you do hit it off and you do want to hook up with them then you can do so right there in one of our private rooms – or out in the group room if you are feeling like being an exhibitionist. You are in a safe neutral territory with other people there who will look out for you just in case anything should go wrong.
OK so maybe you are not looking for a hookup … then you might think that a swingers club is a strange place to meet. You might have some pre-conceived ideas about what happens at a swingers club.
Essentially Infusions is primarily a great social venue much like a regular bar. The difference from your local bar or club is that you will find that people at the club are much more respectful. There is no uninvited touching, groping on the dance floor or other bad behaviour that often happens at a bar or nightclub.
At Infusions we offer the same facilities you find at your local – a byo bar, pool table, comfy couches, good music, and a large open social area. People come along, enjoy a drink, chat with others and have a game of pool. You’ll find that people at the club are friendly, open minded and are looking to meet new people.
The club is not a meat market – there is no pressure to get involved in play and indeed many of our guests don’t. They come along to join us for the social fun and a bit of flirting. People come with no expectations and enjoy the evening as it enfolds. A no at the club means no so don’t worry about getting hit on or pressured. You might surprise yourself and find that you enjoy watching others!
So next time you are ready to move an online relationship to real world consider meeting at Infusions club. Just send us a note via our website form or text or call us on 0423 894 457 for details of our next event and invite.